CARE OUT LOUD PODCAST
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Mary Coughlin: [00:00:00]
Well, welcome to our final episode of the care out loud podcast for season one, our inaugural season. I'm so wicked excited to be sitting here with my incredible teammates, Kristy Fuller and Tara DeWolfe, as we just wrap up this amazing season and, and start to take a peek into What's around the corner for 2024.
The thing that's been so incredible about this podcast season is really in the fact that I'm kind of new and novicey to podcasts. I mean, I'm like Christie, who's a podcast-a-holic. I I dabble maybe, but this whole adventure really turned out to be something way more exciting than I had originally anticipated.
I don't know about you guys, but. Well,
Kristy Fuller: I have to say, Mary, this is Christy here. One of the things that I really enjoyed about your podcast is the variety. I mean, each person had a very different story, a very different background, [00:01:00] and that was. Very interesting to me and great to hear from them. And I just think it's fun to get a behind the scenes look at people because it's more than just like their books, their publications, all the things that they maybe do and everybody kind of sees as their frontline personality.
And you were able to get at that in the care out loud podcast. So I enjoyed that, Mary. Thank
Mary Coughlin: you so very much. Absolutely.
Tara DeWolfe: And, you know, when you think about, I mean, we've said it 100 times of words matter and our language it just felt so inspiring to hear, you know, from the vast group of guests that were on the podcast that words do matter.
And, you know, that, that. Hearing things in different ways, you know, how it just hits [00:02:00] you different. And so I think that was, that was definitely a highlight this year for me is, is just, you know, hearing trauma informed care. Through the lens of so many other people and, you know, but there's a commonality of language, but there's also just like, okay, we can say it like this, and we can say it like that, and we can, you know, see things in different ways.
So, I really appreciated that, that piece of this.
Mary Coughlin: It was really just a fun surprise, you know particularly when I think about, you know, how all of these amazing guests were lined up, you know, for all of these interviews. And although they come from all of these different backgrounds, I mean, many of them were healthcare professionals or researchers, but looking at, you know, the science through a different lens, how there was that incredible shared theme that kind of carried through all of the, [00:03:00] all of the interviews.
And I do especially like how each of them had their own spin on what it meant to care out loud, but even that had a real common thread, that there's not one way of caring out loud, that it's as Rich and abundant as there are people on the planet, you know, that's all the different ways that you can care out loud.
So it felt really exciting to the point now where I'm really looking forward to next season. And I think we're going to have a real robust experience now that I've kind of worked out some of my insecurities and kinks about doing this. I feel a little bit more grounded and knowledgeable about the whole experience, you know, and how to foster and cultivate a rapport that feels safe, that feels spontaneous.
You know, and fun, of course, you know, I mean, that was the other piece of many of the [00:04:00] conversations, you know, I, I'd stopped the recording and we'd still go chatting on, you know, and and it was really fun to watch the evolution of these relationships that started out, at least for me on a very, you know, professional, you know, level.
That's where I met. All of these guys, but then you get to know them as you said, Christy, a little bit more personally and realize that you do have these shared perspectives and understandings, but that they can also be broadened, you know, when you kind of afforded that, that lens from that other individual.
So, so super cool. And we get excited to. to move forward with the Care Out Loud podcast in 2024. Woo hoo! Absolutely.
Tara DeWolfe: Absolutely. Speaking of, speaking of fun, you know, I feel like way back you know, we're always coming back to what's our intention of this and how do we want this to feel and fun, [00:05:00] exciting and inspiring.
We're definitely some top words on the list and so I feel like. You absolutely nailed that Mary, with this, this Care Out Loud podcast. Oh, thank
Mary Coughlin: you so very much.
Kristy Fuller: And Mary, you know, when you were talking about being grounded, one of the things that I think has been fun this year that we've done is said to ourselves multiple, multiple times, what is our intention?
Why are we doing this work? And so it's been really great to Dig into that in in big things and in small things that we're doing. And so when we stop and think about, you know, why is carrying essentials doing this work, we really want to help individuals live their best life in all aspects. And then we had to say.
Okay. What does that mean to live your best life? Live your best self, be your best self. And it really [00:06:00] is that living compassion in action. Yeah. And it's that kindness. It's that connection. And for me, what really is striking is to say it's for myself. And not just the compassion, the kindness and the connection for other people.
And so that has just I think really shaped the way I interact with other people. The way I'm treating myself in various situations is stopping and asking myself, you know, When my mind gets going on something, I'm being too hard on myself for mistakes. You know, would I say that to a friend?
Yeah. And then when I'm interacting with my friends, I'm saying to them, you know, it feels like maybe some of this starts with what are the nice things that you're doing for you for yourself, or how can you be kinder to yourself and take better care of yourself, [00:07:00] get better sleep. Take a walk be good to yourself.
And I think my kids are really hearing me say that a lot is it's just balancing, you know, when we're doing hard things, when life is throwing us some curve balls, we know we're under a lot of stress and trying to balance that out and then be really, really kind to, to ourselves.
Mary Coughlin: How about you guys? I think the language that you're using there too I've just noticed.
for us. And, and, you know, it's probably in parallel with the care out loud concept too, but this compassion and action is it feels like we're making these discoveries and opening up, um, the use of different words, different language to help capture. Our message and the experience that we're trying to create and the discoveries that we're trying to help facilitate for individuals you know, who are becoming trauma informed or, or maybe even pursuing becoming a trauma informed professional [00:08:00] that feels more accessible to folks, you know and so I think a lot of what you just shared.
Is that it is that piece that enables folks to say, Oh, hey, I want some of that. I wasn't sure what this trauma informed stuff is because I don't feel like I'm in trauma or traumatized. But I hear what you're saying being kind to myself taking care of myself being more understanding. And so I think we're, we're also crafting a deeper understanding of the work that we're doing, and the movement that we're creating to help people.
Thank you. See, you know, what, what does this really mean? What is it to care out loud to live compassion and action to be trauma informed kind of, you know, from a larger perspective. Does that sound right?
Kristy Fuller: Absolutely. And I think that You know, the neat thing about the podcast too, is it's tapping in to people's stories [00:09:00] and, and, and I love that it is, how are they living compassion and action in, in their work and, and then getting in touch a little bit more with their personal life and, and what's, what's going on and, and how they keep going.
Mary Coughlin: You just made me think of Livio. I don't know if you guys remember, Livio was one of the early interviews and he talked about how his group is doing all this really incredible research around families and their experience of struggle with, with having children in the newborn intensive care unit in particular and, and how that plays out in society, that they put together this big festival and they had musicians and they had researchers and they They were really using this kind of multimedia approach to it.
To me, it felt like really reconnecting everybody to this shared lived experience as human beings right just stumbling and bumbling through life. But always knowing that. There's somebody next to you or somebody there to help you when [00:10:00] you do stumble, when you do bumble. And that was just such a powerful exemplar of what it means to care out loud and connecting that real human experience with hard science, right?
Sometimes I think the science and the research can feel wicked divorced maybe from the human lived experience, but in Livio's work, he's really showing how that all can be interconnected. And and and make make sense, right? Help people lay people see the understand the science, not to the details, but understand that there is science and help the scientists stay grounded in the human experience and
Kristy Fuller: fun and fun.
He made it really fun.
Tara DeWolfe: And, you know, I think to This maybe, maybe it's it is this year and and maybe it's been, you know, over several years, but trauma informed care being trauma informed, you know, it's just [00:11:00] popping up more and more. And I feel like as someone said it, you know, that it's kind of a buzzword now or, you know, and like, what truly is the meaning and, you know, I think a highlight of the year, you know, really kicked off of this idea of caring out loud is back to the Trauma Informed Professional Certificate Program.
And you know, Christy, when you were sharing the why of, of really, you know, living your best life and that, We can care for others better when we do that. There's a standout moment for me from the TIP program, a mastermind call where someone said, I came into this program to be a better SLP. And I came out a better person, and I don't know it's just like really stuck with me in like, I just like, ah, how is [00:12:00] that even possible, you know, but then it's like, you know, you go back.
To the attributes of a trauma informed professional and, you know, when we're digging into healing intention and personal wholeness and courage and advocacy and role model. I mean, I don't want to leave out knowledge.
But you can just totally, you know, see how spending time diving into those areas uh, really can make a difference in your life and your quality of life and just like being your best self. And I'm hopeful as we're pulling together this next season that we're, we can highlight that, you know, our, our hopes to Highlight that in trauma informed professionals to just further expand this certification so that it just becomes the standard, you know, like we're all [00:13:00] have been the tools, the resources to be our best and then, you know, we are able to care out loud in different ways.
Mary Coughlin: Yeah. Oh, nicely said. And nice set up to Tara, I have to say for, you know, what we do have to look forward to in 2024 and taking all of this wisdom and insight and understanding from this past year from 2023 and helping it really guide how we're going to navigate the next year and really continue to intentionally lead this movement in trauma informed care and, and the trauma, the global trauma informed professional community in ways that help them live their best selves and be leaders in their own right.
Right. And I think, you know I hope this is okay for me to like let the cat out of the bag, you know, with all of this work, with all of this insight, we've now made a commitment that we are going to have Our annual conference. We're doing a little bit of tweaking on the names. [00:14:00] If you remember Science and Soul this is Science and Soul jacked up and revised.
I guess, what do they call it? It's the United
Kristy Fuller: States. It's the United States, Mary. It's our first time. First time in the United States.
Mary Coughlin: In October, October 13th and 15th. So I hope you've got a pen and paper in hand so that you can jot this down and we'll be here in Boston at the iconic now Hilton Boston Park Plaza hotel and stay tuned, you know, we'll be sharing some more information.
But again, this is another way for us to Make those really important connections with our community of health and human service professionals that are on that leading edge on that raw edge of humanity, serving individuals who are who are struggling, who are in crisis, who are looking for That compassionate loving hand to walk alongside them in their journey so that they then can [00:15:00] cultivate that resilience and, and navigate the challenges that are just inherent in life.
Tara DeWolfe: Absolutely. We're coming to see you, Mary. Yeah, there
Mary Coughlin: you go. But I think, you know, between that, between the conference and the continuing of the Care Out Loud podcast and all of the other good work that not only we're doing, but but the members of the community are doing in all their different ways of really living, loving leadership as trauma informed professionals presenting, publishing, speaking and just living, right?
Being role models, being living exemplars of what it means to, to live compassion in action, what it means to, to care out loud every single day is a, is a gift and a blessing to us. And we look forward to reconnecting with you guys after the holidays. So [00:16:00] take it easy and we will see you all next year.
